Confidence is a Skill (Not Just a State of Mind)


When it comes to making a lasting impression, nothing is more powerful than showing up confidently. Whether you’re stepping into a job interview, attending a social gathering, or taking the stage to deliver a presentation, projecting self-assurance can make all the difference. Confidence is not just a state of mind; it’s an art form that can be mastered with practice. So, if you’re ready to unlock your inner radiance and leave a lasting mark wherever you go, learn the art of showing up confidently. Confidence is a skill that can be learned, it takes practice and patience to master but it is well worth the commitment and time investment. Your most successful and fulfilling life awaits when you step into the confident person you were always meant to be.

When women show up confidently, they command respect, assert their worth, and make their voices heard. It opens doors to new opportunities, whether it is in the professional realm, personal relationships, or leadership roles. Confidence enables women to navigate challenges with resilience, take calculated risks, and push beyond their comfort zones. It fosters self-belief and inspires others, becoming a catalyst for positive change and breaking glass ceilings. By showing up confidently, women can shatter stereotypes, challenge gender biases, and create a more inclusive and equal world. Ultimately, it empowers women to embrace their full potential, achieve their goals, and lead lives that are more powerful and purposeful. 

When learning how to show up confidently, pay attention to your body language. Stand tall with good posture, keeping your shoulders back and head held high. Make eye contact with others, showing engagement and interest. Use open gestures, avoiding crossing your arms, to project openness and approachability. Walk with purpose, taking confident strides. Remember, your body language is a powerful tool to communicate confidence, so be mindful of your posture and nonverbal cues. One of the best ways to build confidence is with continual practice and rehearsal, just like a sport. It is important to practice confidence within your mind as well as with your body. Visualize yourself as confident, and poised, commanding of attention. 

Visualizing helps to create a positive mindset and belief in your own abilities. By envisioning yourself as a confident leader, you tap into your subconscious mind and begin to align your thoughts, emotions, and behaviors with that image. This can have a profound impact on your self-perception and increase your overall confidence. Visualization allows you to mentally rehearse and prepare for leadership situations. By vividly imagining yourself confidently handling challenges, making decisions, and effectively communicating, you build a mental blueprint for success. This mental rehearsal enhances your competence and reduces anxiety or self-doubt when facing real-life leadership scenarios. When you radiate confidence, it draws people towards you, increases trust, and inspires them to follow your lead. As a leader, projecting confidence fosters a positive and empowering work environment, as others feel assured and motivated by your example.

A confident woman takes credit for her accomplishments and contributions. She acknowledges her value and does not downplay her achievements or attribute them solely to external factors. She embraces self-promotion when appropriate, highlighting her skills and successes. Rather than shying away from challenges or waiting for instructions, a confident woman takes initiative and approaches problems with a proactive mindset. She seeks solutions, offers suggestions, and takes responsibility for finding ways to overcome obstacles. A confident woman knows when and how to advocate for herself and her ideas, while also recognizing the importance of collaboration and teamwork. She strikes a balance between assertiveness and cooperation, valuing the input of others while maintaining her own confidence in her abilities. Take steps to be the confident woman you envision and with enough practice, patience, and time you will become her.  When you develop confidence, it can reveal your greatest potential and success beyond anything you ever thought possible. 


Tara LaFon Gooch is the author of, “How To GRASP Confidence & Own Your Power,” her story of overcoming adversity to become her most confident self with a foundation of gratitude. She is a speaker, coach and author, with an MBA from the University of North Carolina at Wilmington

You can find  her book online at Amazon or on her website at


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