Conversation with Your BFF: “How Can I Live Life to the Fullest in Case Tomorrow Doesn’t Come?”
Although there are many things Americans might divide over, the thought that time is precious is one I do believe we can all agree on. Whether you look at the lives of family and friends lost unexpectedly, who had plans for the future, or you live by scripture, and hear Matthew 6:34 saying, ‘Therefore do […]
Conversation with Your BFF: “How Long Should I Beat Myself Up for Bad Decisions?”
There’s no one harder on you than you are. We all make bad choices and decisions, some of us realize when we do, and we kick ourselves afterwards. It’s important to understand when we have really screwed up and move on from there, hopefully making better choices in the future. So is there a specific […]
Conversation with Your BFF: “How Can I Not Feel Drained All the Time?”
As the New Year marches on, you may have been hoping that life would slow down a bit after the holidays, but now you are as busy as ever – being pulled in every way, by everyone. At the end of each day, you have little to no energy, are drained emotionally and mentally, and […]
Conversation with Your BFF: “How Can My Relationships in 2023 Be Better Than in the Past?”
If you are a New Year’s Resolution person, you are probably working on either better diet choices, getting back to the gym, spending more time learning a new skill, or maybe making your relationships with family, friends, and significant others better than they have been in the past. But what can you do to connect […]
Conversation with Your BFF: “Could I Be Gaslighting Myself?”
Earlier this year I had a chat with my BFF about whether her boyfriend was gaslighting her and exactly what gaslighting is. The official definition of ‘gaslighting’ is a manipulative abuse tactic where a person starts questioning their own reality. This is accomplished through one person, usually referred to as an ‘abuser’ questioning facts and/or […]
Conversation with Your BFF: ‘Am I Using My iPad As a Babysitter?’
My friend and I were having lunch not too long ago and we noticed a family of four: mom, dad, and two kids, approximately 6 and 8, boy and girl, respectively, sitting nearby in a booth. There was no conversation between the family members other than placing their order. Mom and dad made some small […]
Conversation with Your BFF: ‘What Should I Do with My Wedding Dress Now That I’m Divorced?’
Recently, my friend and I were cleaning out our individual homes, doing the purge pile, the donation pile, the ‘What was I thinking when I bought that?’ pile, and we both happened upon our wedding dresses. This discovery, for both of us, ground our cleanups to a halt and she called me and said, ‘What […]
Conversation with Your BFF: “Is It OK to Sleep with a Stuffed Animal or Baby Blanket as an Adult?”
In a recent conversation with a friend, we discussed things that bring us comfort as adults. The smell of fresh-baked chocolate chip cookies, newly cut grass, a summer rain, and then she said, ‘Do you sleep with a stuffed animal or a baby blanket? Don’t tell anyone, but I have a stuffed animal I’ve had […]
Conversation with Your BFF: ‘What Happens When I Stop Being a People-Pleaser?’
From as far back as I can remember, I’ve been a people-pleaser. If there was a meeting like AA for people-pleasers, I’d be there every time they opened the doors. Yes, I am that bad, or was that bad. Growing up as an only child, I was always trying to make my parents happy, since […]
Conversation with Your BFF: ‘What is Closure?’ Part II
BY REBECCA COOPER Just to recap last month’s discussion on the topic of closure, from the perspective of it’s not always possible or needed, this month I’m playing devil’s advocate and looking at closure, focusing on why we do need it and how to get that elusive ending of a relationship. So, how do you […]
